Most of us know what outright verbal abuse looks like and sounds like. It involves shouting, personally oriented insults, accusastion, swearing and similar behaviors. And it hurts. If there's one saving grace about outright, in your face verbal aggression, it's that you KNOW when you are being targetted.
What's more insiduous is when verbal abuse is subtle, and ongoing. Often it comes in passive-aggressive formats, or attempts on the part of the other person to "get his own way", but often the insults and attacks are implied, or simply involved pressure tactics that we've become so used to that we accept it as normal. It's not. And it hurts too.
Our ability to understand subtle slights and insults, and to be pressured indirectly means that we may feel the negative effects, without quite knowing why or how the other person is being manipulated.
In this LearnBytes Helpcard, we explain the various subtle tactics people use to intimidate, pressure and otherwise get their ways, while disregarding the wishes of the other person, which is the hallmark of an abusive relationship.
In addition, you'll be able to evaluate your OWN use of these common tactics, and identify whether you fall into the category of subtle verbal abuse user. In both instances, whether a victim or a subtle abuser, by knowing this is going on you can save the relationship, and change how you communicate particularly if it's not your intent to hurt or harm.
Here's page one of the two page LearnBytes Helpcard